1. Make a list.

When you find yourself feeling critical of your beloved, sit down and make a list of "All The Things I Still Love About My Mate." This will remind you of why you both first fell in love.

2. Start spreading the news.

At least once a day, compliment each other. Because everyone loves to hear good news.

3. Learn what to say. (And how to listen.)

When it comes to communication, men and women have different needs. Men need to hear they've done a good job. So remember to compliment him for the things he does. (Even if he doesn't do them that well.)

Women need to feel their man is listening. Men can help by learning the "Mantra for Men" and practicing it often, saying to themselves, again and again...

     Just listen, don't give advice.
     Just listen, don't give advice.
     Just listen, don't give advice.

4. Learn to soothe frayed nerves.

When your partner is having trouble coping -- either with the world or with you -- don't shout, don't pout, don't run away. Just turn to your mate and lovingly say, "Honey, what do you need from me... right now?"

5. Give a little more.

Instead of trying to get your way, try to give a little, then give a little more. In other words: Practice thinking more "We" than "Me."
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Based on the book ...
"Fairy Tales Can Come True: Just Not Every Day!"
by J.S. Salt

J.S. Salt is a pen name for Joel Saltzman, author of the book, "Shake That Brain!" (Wiley, 2006). VIsit his website: www.shakethatbrain.com